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A Modest Proposal to SB 140 in Georgia : This is a Hostage Situation

The humanity of 48,000 Georgians are at the whim of the majority. 8,500 trans youth between the ages of 13 to 17 have had their access to life-saving, gender affirming care cut off. And the chilling fear as always is when do they stop? What is their endgame. Except, in recent CPAC speeches - their endgame is quite apparent.

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Waltzing Around Bottom Surgery

Sometimes I think what has happened to my life - in the best possible way. But there’s always that one thought that has to be kept at bay, a dangerous thought to entertain - what if I had just been born in the right body. The body that matched my own personal reflection. Dangerous, because once one travels down the road of what-ifs and shoulds and could-have-beens, then one sets oneself up for unhappiness. Accepting, sometimes radically, where one is at in life is the most potent antidote for traveling down those roads. Accepting what is, instead of what could have been.

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Bottom Surgery or Become a Duchess ...

Years ago now (feels weird to say this) but years ago in therapy, right before I began the process for The Duchess short film, I remember commenting to my therapist that I could afford either The Duchess or bottom surgery. He asked why and … basically I only had enough credit for one. And then he asked why I couldn't do both at the same time and - look. Trans people don’t make a lot of money. Black indie filmmakers don’t make a lot of money. Black trans queer people don’t make a lot of money. Black trans queer filmmakers don’t make a lot of money.

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“I make lists in my sleep baby, what’s my sin? “

When under stress, I retreat inward. I have a magnificently rich inner life, which I think helps make me a great writer. I’m in my head too much. I can get lost in The Sims creating houses and worlds. I can get lost in writing, and again, creating worlds. My latest retreat involves me now designing flags for the different houses of the Duchy and the Queerdom. Because we also need another escape world that doesn't involve a problematic writer with a well-known fantasy world.

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